Taking Responsibility for Our Hearts
There’s a saying I was taught while learning to ride my bike. I was told that if there is an obstacle in my path, that I should not focus on it. If my focus becomes placed onto the obstacle, I will run into it. But if my focus remains on where I want to go, I will safely bypass whatever is in my path.
We need a new definition of modesty.
You are not harming anyone but yourselves.
I am not interested in who does or does not look at you. I am not interested in whatever lustful thoughts a man has for you. That’s his problem.
But just because a man should take responsibility for his thoughts and actions doesn’t mean there is no other harm that could come from you dressing immodestly. Unfortunately, it’s a double-edged sword, and the real problem here is the harm that you are doing to your heart.
If you dress to show as much of your body on purpose because you like the attention, chances are you’re wearing your insecurities on your sleeve. It isn’t healthy to place so little value on your body that you use it merely as a tool for attention. Remember that you want to attract a man to your heart, your mind, your soul, and not just draw his lust towards your body. Don’t settle for a man who will only pursue your physical flesh. You are much more than the sum of your parts!
Do not be so concerned with your body that you hide as much of it as possible.(Also)Do not be so concerned with your body that you show as much of it as possible.